1. They Invited You So You Have to Invite Them
Not at all. You should never feel pressured or obligated to invite someone just because they invited you. Maybe their guest count was larger whereas you may want to keep yours small and intimate. Or perhaps you have parted ways since their wedding. Whatever the reason, you should invite people you want to invite because at the end of the day, it’s your wedding and no one else’s! In the event that someone assumes they are invited, it’s crucial to let them know upfront. Your reasons can simply be surrounded by guest or budget constraints. Once again, you should celebrate your special day with the ones you love and are closest to.
2. Wedding Planners Are Too Expensive
A client asked me if wedding planners are expensive and this wasn’t my first time hearing this. With biases set aside, this is a myth. Wedding planners have knowledge of the industry, know vendors that would be the right fit for their clients from both a vision and budget standpoint, negotiate with vendors and often times are able to save you money as you may not likely know how much things cost. Not to mention they are with you every step of the way providing you with tips and tricks, therapy sessions, follow ups and of course, overlooking your entire day. With weddings becoming more extravagant year after year, it takes a large toll on the couple to manage the workload of planning a wedding and at the same time, having to please their family and friends. If you feel that you are overwhelmed, take a look at my services here as I’d be happy to help you through this process of love and celebration.
3. Save Money by Doing it Yourself
Be careful with this one. Why? Well it’s easy to think you can create decor elements yourself, however there’s a lot that goes into it. Let’s take centrepieces as an example. Ask yourself the following questions: how will I source them, where will I store them, how will I transport them, who will set them up, who will take them down, and what am I going to do with them after? In addition, you will have to work even closer with vendors such as your florist to manage the vision whereas you can just leave this up to a vendor to provide the solution. Now imagine if you are having a large wedding. That’s a lot of centrepieces to take care of!
4. Number of Bridesmaids and Groomsmen Need to Match
I’ve had clients where the number of bridesmaids and groomsmen were not equal, and the pictures still looked fabulous! I actually prefer this as it’s a modern twist to the traditional wedding. Let your photographer know beforehand and they will have great ideas on making the photos work. If you’re also worried about the processional, break tradition! You can get creative and breakdown your bridal party into groups. For example, have one groomsmen walk down two bridesmaids or have the bridesmaids walk down separately from the groomsmen. If you are in a situation where you find yourself forcing to find family and friends to include in your bridal party, stop right there as mismatched bridal parties are perfectly common.
5. Fiancé Is Definitely Not Going to Help
The only reason your fiancé is not going to help you is because you’ve decided to take on everything yourself. The best thing to do is ask and split responsibilities based on the things you both enjoy. If you love baking, take on researching for a cake vendor. If your fiancé enjoys booking hotels, let your fiancé manage hotel accommodations for your out-of-town guests. All in all, communication is key and dividing responsibilities from the beginning will help you enjoy the planning aspect for your wedding. If you feel you and your fiancé are disagreeing on a lot of things and really need the extra help, feel free to contact me here and I’d be more than happy to help you plan your special day.
